Growing up in a Christian home and going to a Christian school from kindergarten through college I heard many sermons and talks on dating a Man of God. I have spent the last 23 years learning what that type of man looks like; his characteristics, his personality, his desires, his goals, his faith, his passion. My entire life I have grown up believing that the right man is someone with the wisdom of Solomon, the strength of David, the integrity of Joseph, the loyalty of Job, and the unconditional love of Jesus himself. Every single girl wants a man like that, whether or not you are a believer. Those men are changing the world and the way relationships are viewed.
Don't get this twisted, I have had my fair share of guys that do not meet these qualifications...by any means, but I have also let these types of men go without giving them a chance. My dating record...or lack there of...is not sparkling and my taste in guys is often misguided, but I always believed that I would find that perfect Christian man who swept me off my feet and made me feel like a queen. However, over the last couple of months I realized that that kind of man is not the man of God I am looking for.
I want a man of God that is the undesirable one, the abandoned and forsaken, the one no one believes in. I want a man like the prodigal son. A man that has struggled, doubted, sinned, and is far from perfect but realizes his life is and will always be futile without Christ. A man that had everything society deemed as worthy, but realized his worth is only found in his identity with Christ. A man who has fallen so far but yet found a way to pull himself up and walk in the way of the Lord.
I want a man like the good Samaritan. The man who selflessly gave of his time, his money, his safety, and his reputation to help someone in need. Who cared more about a stranger in need then his own good. Who believed that his life is not the only life that matters. Who, despite people's expectations and judgement, managed to change the world.
I am not discounting the amazing characteristics of the male leaders in the Bible, I am not disregarding the fact that so many astounding men of God like that exist. Our churches and society would be is disarray without those warriors of faith, but without the undesirables the picture is not complete. The entire love and grace of God is missed if we do not acknowledge the ugly parts of people's lives and how He can make beautiful things out of the dust.
So, give me a man that is imperfect, messy, broken, and hurting. Because in the darkest times, he has seen the love of God and has overcome; to me that it the most alluring and sexy thing there is.
