Recently I read a blog entry by a male journalist written specifically to women from the entire male population. The purpose of the letter was to ask for forgiveness and patience on behalf of the whole gender. I was incredibly impressed and found this man to be quite admirable, but it also made me realize that the women of this generation are no better. So this is my response to the young man who went on a limb for us, this one's for you Matthew. (view original post here)
Dear Men,
We would like to start off by saying how sorry we are for not being the ladies our mothers and grandmothers raised us to be. We have allowed the society around us to dictate the way we carry ourselves, the way we dress, and the way we talk to men. We went from little girls wanting to be just like a fairytale princess to modeling our lifestyle after the most trendy celebrity. Our self worth is no longer found in the characteristics we hold, but by the way we use our bodies.
By changing the view of ourselves, we have also changed our views on all of you. We instantly assume the worst in all men; that you are all the same. We have allowed one foul moment in our past to dictate the rest of our lives. We go on and on about the "perfect man" but refuse to act like the woman who deserves that kind of man. For our selfishness, I truly apologize.
A woman understands a man's need for respect, loyalty, love, and happiness. A woman should not constantly chastise and belittle you but it has become so natural for us to do. Please understand, as a woman, we like to fix things and we like to have things fit in to the model we created in our heads. When things are not "just right" it makes us frustrated and unfortunately we take that out on you. It rarely has anything to do with what you did, but more so to do with what we wanted you to in a specific way. We promise to be better communicators of our true feelings, needs, and wants rather than expecting you to meet them all while wearing a blindfold.
Do not give up on us, we want to allow you to be the man in the relationship and to guide us through life. We want to be taken care of and loved by you, and we desperately want to enjoy every moment of life with you even if we do not show it. We want to respect you and all the quirks that drive us crazy, but we must first be able to love and respect ourselves despite our own imperfections which has become harder and harder to do in this day and age.
When we feel cherished, prized, and honored we can be the best girlfriend and wife to you. Help us to feel that way and we assure you that you will find happiness with us. Thank you for being patient as our emotions are a constant roller coaster, please stick along for the ride even if it is bumpy.
Sincerely and lovingly,
Women
