Life is messy, and it's hard, and some days it down right sucks. Often it is for reasons out of our own control, but lately I have been realizing it has a lot more to do with our personal choices than we like to admit. We can't fix the world and all of it's problems, but we can make things a little more bearable for ourselves and the ones we love if we cut out a few nasty habits.
Calling other girls "bitches".
Yes, I know this may seem like a harmless thing to do, but really, we are disrespecting and belittling our own gender. When we have such little concern for women (the same women who struggle with insecurities, doubt, and self-worth just like you do) then men will no longer treat us with value. Just because you don't like what that girl in the club is wearing does not mean she is a bitch. Use that word wisely because if you can call someone else that, then you can also be one as well.
Thinking you know it all.
Congratulations, you have survived 4 years of high school, 4 years of college, and maybe a few years in the work force. I applaud you on completing these milestones, but in that time you did not become an expert on everything in the whole world. You have learned things, you have experienced things, and you have failed but in no way are you the guru of how life should be lived. Stop thinking you know everything and that you have the right to tell others how they should live their lives. NEWSFLASH you still haven't even lived your life yet. If you feel like you’ve got all your shit together, congratulations...but stop with the humblebragging all over social media about your great new job/car/boyfriend/etc. Smugness is never a good quality.
Dating with no vision.
Our generation has, for some odd reason, become enamored by the idea of "dating around" or, more bluntly, "sleeping around". This literally blows my mind for so many reasons that I do not even have enough time to explain. Dating with no intentions or purpose is confusing for your heart and hurts the hearts of others. It may be fun, it may be exciting, and it may feel really damn good, but in the end it is empty. Dating was intended to lead to marriage not to a romp in the bed.
Buying stuff.
Stop spending money you don't have, on things that you don't need, to try to impress people you don't like. I am an advocate for treating yourself to something nice on an occasion, but relying on credit cards is not a way to live life. Try investing your time in to people instead of your money in to things and see how much more fulfilling life becomes.
Stalking people on social media.
I admit, this one is for me. I am preaching at myself right now so feel free to tune out. Spending hours upon hours "creeping" on your ex, or that guy who broke your heart, or that girl you hate for god-only-knows what reason does literally NO good for you. Nothing you will find will comfort you, it only brews more insecurities and pain. They are not part of your life for a reason, so keep it that way.
Criticizing other people's personalities.
Stop calling someone annoying because they like to talk a lot. Stop calling someone stuck up because they are quite. Stop calling someone stubborn because they are strong in their beliefs. Stop calling someone sensitive because they have the ability to feel empathy easier than you. The beauty of human beings is that no two are the same. That is an incredible gift that God has given to each one of us: individuality. Are you going to agree, get along, and like all of them? Absolutely not, but understand that you also have personalities flaws too.
Amen to that!
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